Do women say the truth about what they like and don't like ? or are they subtle and indirect ?

i have always noticed that women don't tell u what they prefer and what they want and they always want men to pick it up , sometimes they tell u the exact opposite of what they like for example i remember a girl saying that she doesn't like guys who dye locks of their hair or wear strange shiny clothes but she ended up married with someone who does dye locks of his hair with weird color and does wear stupid shiny clothes , an other example is during they find it hotter and much more pleasurable when i know what to do and they never tell me anything that they want during